06.12.07
The One That Got Away
In your life, you will take note of a lot of people.
Ones with whom you shared something special,
One who will always mean something.
There’s the one that you first kissed,
you first loved, you lost your virginity to,
you put on a pedestal, the one that you are with,
and the one that got away!
Who is the one that got away?
I guess it’s the person with whom everything
was great,
was perfect,
but the timing was just wrong.
There was no fault in the person,
there was no flaw of chemistry,
but the cards just didn’t fall
the right way, I supposed.
I believe in the fact that ending with someone,
finding a long time partner that is,
doesn’t lie merely in the other person.
I can actually argue that an equal part or
maybe even the greater part,
has to do with the matter of timing.
It has to do with you being ready to settle down
and commit to someone in a way that goes
beyond the little niceties of giddy romance.
How often have you gone through it without even realizing it?
When you’re not ready to commit in the mature manner,
it doesn’t matter whom you’re with,
it just doesn’t work.
It’s not that you and the person you are with are no good.
It’s just that it’s not yet right and little things become
the flash point of that fact.
Then one day you’re ready.
You really are.
And when this happens,
You’ll be ready to settle down with someone.
She or he may not be the most perfect.
She or he may not be the brightest star of
romance to ever burned your life
But it will work because you’re ready,
because it’s the right time &
you will make it work.
And it makes sense, it really will.
So the day comes when you’re finally making sense of things,
and you find yourself to be a different person.
Things and your approach are different.
You finally understand who you are
and what you want
and you’ve become ready because the time has truly arrived.
And mind you there’s no telling when this day will come.
Hopefully you’re single,
but you could be in a long term relationship,
you could be married with three kids.
It doesn’t matter.
All you know is that you’ve changed,
and for some reason,
the one that got away is the person you think about.
You’ll think about the person because you’ll wonder,
"What if he/she was here today?"
You’ll wonder, "What if we were together now,
with me as I am and not as I was?"
That’s the one that got away is.
The biggest "what if" you’ll have in your life.
Maybe the one that got away is the one who’s already married
in which case it’s the same thing.
You just have to accept and know that
your memories of that person will probably bring
a nice smile to your lips in the future
when you’re old, gray and reminiscing.
But if neither of that is the case then it’s different.
What do you do if it’s not yet too late?
Simple…!
Find him or her…
Because the very existence of a
"ONE THAT GOT AWAY"
means that you’ll always wonder what if you got that one.
You might drop in from out of nowhere
and it won’t make a difference.
If the timing is finally right,
it will all just fall into place somehow and you know,
I’m thinking, it would be a great feeling,
in the end to be able to say to someone,
"HEY YOU! YOU’RE THE ONE THAT ALMOST GOT AWAY!"
