07.29.07
Crimora
Sacrifice, Honesty and Relationships
It has been a difficulty for me determining my
three great values in life. My life has been a trial-and-error and the roads I
have led are yet unclear to me. I am a person with few experiences yet but I am
proud that though few they may be, I treasure so much each of them. As far as
experiences are concerned, I believe that life is not a matter of who
experiences the most and the hardest. It is more about how the bearer reflects
and finds meaning in every life circumstance.
Although values are integral parts of the
entirety of a person, they are still changeable as one goes on with life.
Looking back, I realized that the values I had when I was a bit younger were
different from what I have today. This is after I have met people who became
important to me.
I VALUE SACRIFICE. This is what I call “sweet
pain.” Sacrifice is the state when pain becomes painless. A person’s openness
to sacrifice enables him or her to give more of himself or herself. I would
take it from Mahatma Gandhi, “The best way to find one’s self is to lose it in
the service of others.”
Reality check tells me that life will not be
generous to me. It has to be the other way around. Giving myself to life is a
way to experience it better and to enjoy it more. Ironic but true, the more we
keep things to ourselves, the more we feel incomplete.
Sacrifice has also provided me with the fuel
to go on with… life: detachment. Life is not a home; it is a travel. We can only
choose the very essential things that we can take with us. Even if that’s the
case, we may still lose these essential things in the course of our travel. Personal
success is cycle of fighting for something and giving up another. That goes
together with weighing which is more valuable to us. On the top of it all is
the value to give up something for another with greater significance and
meaning.
I can’t have everything. My choices are
limited. Through sacrifices, I get by.
I VALUE HONESTY. This is my only gift to myself.
Many people go through the process of self-discovery and I am one of them. I
believe in what Socrates said that knowing oneself is the stepping stone to
wisdom.
No one would feel comfortable living a life
full of masquerades and pretensions. Honesty to one’s self, opinions and
feelings is a way to courage, and itself its manifestation. Honesty as well is
one great liberator. An honest person is the one who easily finds reason to
face the world without fear, and finds pleasure being approached and questioned
by others.
We reap what we sow. I become honest to the
world, the world becomes honest to me. Perhaps that is one reason why I find my
instinct reliable. I train myself to be honest with my thoughts and feelings.
Respect and integrity are two important things
that a person can ever possess. They can never be bought; they are gained.
Honesty is the way of life, the pattern of living, by which a person gains two
precious possessions aforementioned.
I VALUE RELATIONSHIPS. I was drowning in tears
when a friend told me, “Hindi masama ang makasakit ng kapwa. Wag lang yung
sobra sa dapat.”
Man is a social being that is why we can never
avoid entering into relationships. While others categorize relationship into a
few forms, I believe that there are innumerable forms of relationships as there
numerous ways of sharing and understanding.
Getting hurt for a social being is natural and
indeed saddening. But the more saddening part is when we choose to give up
because of our pride. I was recalling the Seven Deadly Sins and noticed that
this word that others consider common and inevitable is one of them. Like many
other things, pride also has its constructive and destructive purpose. At
certain limits, there is nothing wrong about having pride to uplift the value of
our “alities”. That is part of becoming influential human beings for the
purpose of making life less difficult for many. However, pride is useless when
it serves to create gap among souls and destroy cherished relationships. This
is also one reason why I hate “dirty politics.” That is so having in my mind
that leaders can politicize without hurting people. But regarding how to do it,
still I do not know how.
Still, as much as I can, I value
relationships. Though I know that people change. Though I know that people come
and go. Though I know that people live and die. If I won’t value relationships,
will it change the fact that people do live, change and die? At least I have
the present to enjoy the time with them, and to have something to write about.
So by the time that the people in my life have changed and gone, I can still
look back to what we have had before. Yes, it may not be as sweet as what we
actually had, but the relationships I have once had with these people are
evident in the pieces of the whole person that I am right now.
(This is the first draft of my assignment in Crimora.)
Zuriel said,
July 30, 2007 at 8:01 am
Wow. There’s not much to say. Definitely impressed^_^
Just try not to think too much. I know you’re smart and you can probably figure everything by yourself.Just remember…
Not all questions needs to be answered, not all questions has an answer.
Just to quote from a poem:
“The prize for becoming a man, was that he got to be a boy.”
Enjoy yourself. Don’t grow up to fast. ^_^
Zuriel said,
July 30, 2007 at 8:03 am
Wow. There’s not much to say. Definitely impressed^_^
Just try not to think too much. I know you’re smart and you can probably figure everything by yourself.Just remember…
Not all questions needs to be answered, not all questions has an answer.
Just to quote from a poem:
“The prize for becoming a man, was that he got to be a boy.”
Enjoy yourself. Don’t grow up too fast. ^_^